It's a common misconception in manifestation circles that the presence of negative emotion itself will create problems. This is not correct. A negative emotion on its own does not have enough momentum to adversely affect our inner image unless it is sustained over a long period of time, and this only happens if we are resistant to it. It is our resistance to that negative emotion which will give it a sticky quality and cause an excess potential to form. ¹ Those excess potentials (different forms of our inner resistance such as artificially elevated importance, guilt, perfectionism, superiority or inferiority) are the root of obstacles & blocks in our world, and not the negative emotion by itself. ¹ It's only when we resist the negative emotion that it sticks around long enough to form into an excess potential that creates an obstacle in our life.

This is why I spend so much time teaching students how to dissolve different forms of inner resistance and how to detect resistance that was previously unconscious to them using the natal chart. (You can get access to my system for doing so inside the Cosmic Flow Code).

In this blog post, we're going to address the surrender technique itself, which will prevent negative energy from forming into an excess potential because we are no longer resisting it.

There is so much confusion in society concerning the proper handling of emotional energy. Often we are encouraged to repress & suppress it so that we can 'get on with our day' and as a result, our emotional lives can become an uninhabitable mess. Luckily, the process of emotional 'cleaning up' is deceptively simple, and it's outlined in the excellent follow-along book called Letting Go by Dr. David R. Hawkins. ² This is something that will give you greater emotional freedom which you can learn to do on your own without needing to follow any dogma, special rituals or behavioral prescriptions. It's more of a process of 'unlearning' than it is learning something entirely new. 

Let's do a quick overview of the essence of this process so you can decide if you'd like to delve into the book & investigate it for yourself.

Allowing the Emotions to Come Up

When life leaves us with a void—a sense of emptiness after a traumatic event or a loss— the best thing we can do is to simply allow the feeling of emptiness. If we try to fill the holes right away and repress the grief that we feel, we are actually drumming up a lot of energetic resistance to the situation itself. The problem with this, of course is that what we resist, persists.

Let's look at the benefits of softening & letting go when we contrast them with the more rigid approach. The rigid resistance that happens when we try to ‘fix’ our anger or our grief can be likened to a transaction in a retail store. When we buy an item, we get a receipt for our purchase as confirmation that we now have the object in our possession.  Similarly, since whatever we focus on grows, when we resist any negative emotion, we are actually putting more emphasis and energy investment into confirming its dominance in our life. It's like we're saying 'Hey, universe! I want receipts to show that I'm feeling this terrible!' After we make this inner declaration, the emotion that we are so resistant to experiencing will loom even larger, because the nature of reality is like a mirror with a delay. ³ Our outer reality can only reflect back to us the contents of the vibrational inner image that we form between our soul and our mind, but often we are not conscious of what we're emitting into our reality mirror at all. ⁴

The energy we spend trying to 'fix' a negative emotion is actually a transaction in which we are energetically declaring: ‘I’m spending a LOT of energy to repress this emotion I do not want.’ Since this is a vibrational universe, the attempts at repressing and suppressing the grief only serve to solidify it in place. ⁵ What we are actually doing when are opposing the grief or trying to change it is giving it even more vibrational momentum. This causes the grief to take on a sticky quality, because whatever we resist persists in our life. ⁵ The resistance is what is keeping it stuck and causing us to be transported to reality sectors where whatever we resist (in this case, subjects that cause us grief) to exist in our life in abundance. ⁴

Alternatives to Emotional Resistance

The more we resist the feelings of grief, the stronger they seem to become, and this is how we get ‘stuck’ in a pattern for weeks, months, and sometimes years. The conscious mind doesn’t want to surrender to the feeling. It's more interested in 'solving' the problem because the mind believes that if we don't like something in our outer reality, the solution is to try to edit our current life track, rather than to dissolve our resistance by making inner vibrational shifts.

Many of us (particularly men, who are taught that it is unmanly to cry) carry around suppressed grief from social conditioning which can be terrifying to us because the mind thinks that if we allow and accept the grief, it will never stop. ⁵ However, the only reason the grief sticks around is because of our own refusal to allow it to be relinquished.  ⁵ If we allow the grief to come up to be surrendered because we have accepted we can handle the grief, we jump up from grief into the level of pride and then eventually into the level courage (e.g. 'I know how to handle my emotions effectively'). This is when our friends and family will see a huge overall positive change in our demeanor.  ⁵

When we simply allow ourselves to experience and surrender to the feeling of grief, our focus becomes softer and less oppositional to the emotion itself. ⁵  When this happens, the vibration of grief in our inner image becomes much less. Once we see that negative energy is a phenomenon that is happening all on its own, and that the energy itself has no real bearing on our own worth as sentient beings, then we have more of our attention freed up to focus on positive experiences beyond these momentary negative feelings.

Grief in particular is time limited. If we accept and surrender to it, the resistance keeps becoming less and less and the grief itself literally runs out.  ⁵ According to David Hawkins, if we participate in the surrender process by allowing & accepting every last part of our feeling of grief without any resistance to it at all, then even the most profound grief will eventually run out after 20 minutes.  ⁵ Even excruciating grief can only last 20 minutes at its full intensity, and then it will simply stop.  ⁵ It may sound unbelievable to those of us who have never tried this process, because the mind is convinced that the feelings are too intense to ever let up, but the only way to achieve direct experience of this knowledge is to give it a try for yourself!

The Door to the Positive Emotional States

Once we have surrendered enough negativity, we arrive at the level of courage—measured at 200 on the scale of consciousness—which is a kind of doorway into the positive emotions on the upper scale. ⁶ At this level, we can handle any negativity that comes up with confidence, clarity and humor. We have more energy and drive than we did at shame (measured at zero, the level closest to death) and we have less irritation than we did at the level of anger (measured at 150, right under the level of pride). ⁷

While we are in courage, we feel self-sufficient and more creative —open to a larger capacity for resilience and there is a certain cheerfulness about the overall process of surrender. ⁶ At this level, we become more willing to let go of old points of view, and when we practice this repeatedly, we can build lots of self esteem merely by being willing to look at our negative feelings and then to become free from them. ⁶

Why We Have a Tendency Toward Resistance

Emotions are actually employed by the mind as a survival mechanism, and this is why the mind doesn't want to let go of the negativity at first. It thinks the negativity will somehow keep it alive, and this survival instinct - a response to fear - drives much of unconscious human behavior.⁸

The underlying negative emotions that drive our actions in life are in response to a sense of lack that humans feel when they believe that they ARE the body. ⁸ Since the body is perceived as vulnerable, we believe we are also vulnerable. ⁸  Insecurity, unhappiness, and lack of fulfillment are all forms of the fear of non-survival, which characterizes the lower motivations behind much of human behavior. ⁸

If you’d like to learn more on the clinical applications of the process of surrender for every kind of negative emotion, you can read Letting Go by David R Hawkins. I highly recommend this version on Audible.

As the book explains, you’ll know you’ve done the Letting Go process correctly as you’ll feel much lighter inside.

Enjoy the process!

Love,


Phoenix

References

1. Vadim Zeland, Reality Transurfing Steps 1-V. E-book ed. Ves Publishing Group; 2014; 55-62